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Hi, this is pastor Ken and these are my thoughts on a Thursday…Remember who you are.

When I was a boy of 8 years of age I became a PK. For those of you who don’t know that is what pastor’s kids call themselves. 8 years later I was a teenager and my father had been pastoring his second church for about 4 years. I had made several friends at that church that I enjoyed working and hanging out with whenever possible. That particular church was in a small farming community on the plains of western New York state just a handful of miles from the shore of Lake Ontario. Thankfully that little village had been founded almost equidistance from the cities of Rochester and Buffalo. As a small town that had seen its better days, other than staring at the Erie Canal that meandered through the center of town, there was literally nothing teenage boys would care to do there on a Friday or Saturday evening after a long week of school and work on the farm. That prohibitive situation left us with the choice of being confined to boredom, or gassing up one of our cars and piling in to go to the city where we would be met with multiple restaurants (though we almost always frequented the same ones) movie theaters, bowling allies or other “wild activities” that seem like mild fun in hindsight. Many weekend evenings I would get ready to “go out” and wait for my buddies to show up so we could make a break for a night out on the town.

My parents required that all of the passengers of the particular car we would be riding in come in to the house for a few minutes before we headed out for that evenings anticipated fun. Looking back through the lens of parenthood I imagine they did that for several reasons. They probably wanted to see that there were not too many passengers for the selected vehicle for the trip, they also likely wanted to know just which characters I would be with that night so they could anticipate how much “fun” we might be planning to have. Without fail, as we would to leave the house to pile into that four wheeled transport to fun and freedom I would hear my father’s voice catching me as I walked out the door, “Don’t forget who you are son.” I hated hearing that! I value that he said it…now. At the time…not so much. It was good enough advice that I found myself recycling it and admonishing my children as teens to keep the same thing in mind.

This morning as I was reading in God’s word I recognized it there too in Ephesians 3:20-4:6 There we read the Holy Spirit inspired words Paul wrote to the Ephesians. Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen. I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you to walk worthy of the calling with which you were called, with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called in one hope of your calling; one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.

This scripture points out that it is in the power of Christ that the situations we are faced with each and every day can have outcomes far better than we could ever ask for. But if we want to see amazing, mind-boggling results there are some things we also must do…namely, remember who we are. Yes, the power to make all the difference comes from the One who works in us, but the fact that Christ lives and works in us should have some side effects that are displayed in how we act. It will not always be easy for those “side effects” to show through and Paul gently reminded the Ephesians that he understood that well. He did that by mentioning that he was in chains, a prisoner of the Lord. He recognized, and did not spare them the knowledge that there is a cost to following Jesus. The same is true for us. We may not be imprisoned as Paul was, but sometimes there is a cost associated with allowing others to know we follow Christ.

So what should be happening when we remember who we are? For starters humility should be what people see when they see us. I have said it before humility is the currency in the economy of the kingdom of God. If we want others to see the return on Christ’s investment in our lives, humility must be evident. Gentleness and longsuffering or being long-tempered are continuations of that lowliness or humility. These are the attributes of that all-important character quality that prove its genuineness. False humility is never able to endure the test of time with patience.

So why is it so important that we remember who we are and bear with one another in love? So our true colors of unity can be seen. In this day and age unity is a rare thing. In many cases we are even being encouraged to separate ourselves from one another. The world around us wants us to separate ourselves by political affiliation, social status, religious denominations, gender and after 60 years of telling us otherwise, now we are even to separate ourselves by race. As Christ followers however, that is not our calling. Our pursuit is to be for unity. Paul points out how that is possible. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called in one hope of your calling; one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.

In the garden on the night before His crucifixion Jesus prayed this unity would be the outcome of what He was about to do. John 17:20-23 I do not pray for these alone, but also for those who will believe in Me through their word; that they all may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us, that the world may believe that You sent Me. And the glory which You gave Me I have given them, that they may be one just as We are one: I in them, and You in Me; that they may be made perfect in one, and that the world may know that You have sent Me, and have loved them as You have loved Me.

We can look at times like we currently live in and ask “What in the world is going on?” or we can recognize that this is a time when we have an amazing opportunity. The world wants to have us all take our respective sides; Christ calls us to unity in Him. Our love for one another and the world around us and our unity in Christ has never had a better chance to stand out than it does right now. Instead of complaining about it, let’s be excited that we live in a time when the light is able to shine so brightly.

So now, as you go in and out, as you interact with your brothers and sisters in Christ and with the world around you…Remember who you are…and go be awesome!

 

Hi this is pastor ken with my Monday Marriage Message…Unanswered Prayers

Malachi 2:13-15 in the New King James Version reads as follows, And this is the second thing you do: You cover the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping and crying; So He does not regard the offering anymore, nor receive it with goodwill from your hands. Yet you say, “For what reason?” Because the Lord has been witness Between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; Yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant. But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore, take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth.

This same sentiment is again spoken of in 1 Peter 3:7 it reads, Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. 

Scriptures like the ones above are difficult to wrestle with. On the one hand, we know that God is love and so it can seem like He is being a bit harsh for a loving God. On the other hand, we have learned that God is a God with a plan for our marriages and therefore must do what is necessary to help us accept the plan and recognize how important it is for us to live our marriages according to that plan.

For those of you who are already parents, you have some understanding of the ability to love your children desperately and yet find the need to withhold something from them to help them recognize the importance of some particular concept. I believe this is what God is trying to do for married couples in regards to the scriptures above.

I have said many times that marriage is the practice field for the relationship God desires to have with us. It is where we learn to make the choices necessary to be in good relationship with God. His own word defines Him as a jealous God, and that He requires our faithfulness. Likewise, marriage is where we learn to be faithful to one only. God requires we be honest before Him. Marriage is where we learn to live together with someone in the ‘stupid honesty.’ I spoke with you about two weeks ago on this podcast. God requires we learn to prefer Him and his ways above what we may desire in a particular moment, and our marriages give us the ability to practice that by preferring one another as scripture admonishes us to do. Like with any sport one might participate in, practice is a necessary component to playing well. We simply cannot continuously have poor practice sessions (marital interactions) and expect that we will be able to play well on game day (relationship with God).

I believe that one of the points God is making in the first scripture above is directly connected to game day. So He does not regard the offering anymore, nor receive it with goodwill from your hands. Yet you say, “For what reason?” Because the Lord has been witness Between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; Yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant.   At first glance, it may look as though God is saying that He either can’t or won’t listen to our prayers if our practice sessions don’t go well. I don’t think that is the case, at least not the totality of it. The second part of the scripture gives further clarity. But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore, take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. What I think God is pointing out is that it is not He who isn’t listening but rather we who are turning a deaf ear to Him.

No one (including God) likes to speak and not be listened to. He has told you in this scripture that He has given you a portion of His own Spirit in your marriage. As I expressed in an earlier entry, this portion of His Spirit is one of the primary ways He gets to have a voice in our marriages. It is a reliable way for us to know what things will be good for our marriages and what things might cause it harm. If we heed that portion of His Spirit, and are sensitive to it, we will do those things that will grow and protect our marriages. If we are not sensitive to His Spirit, we tend to ignore the warnings and prompts from Him and do what we want to, even to the detriment of the relationship. This scripture is quite clear; God is paying attention to the way we treat each other as evidence of our choices. Are we allowing the portion of His Spirit to lead and to guide, or are we taking the helm ourselves? If we are choosing to ignore the portion of His Spirit, His response is clear. Why should He expect we would listen to an answer to our prayers any more than we have listened to the portion of Him that exists right there in our marriage? I don’t think God is saying that if we don’t treat each other right He will respond by not answering our prayers. I believe God is saying that if we don’t listen to His Spirit in our marriages, why would we would be any more likely to listen to an answer to our prayers. He is simply pointing out that the lack of listening isn’t on His part…it’s on ours. I believe the scripture from 1 Peter bears that out as well.

Final thought. I recognize that these scriptures look a little one sided toward men, and some husbands might feel they are being singled out. If we look at the historical context of Malachi’s time, we can see that men were making all the decisions for their marriages, and their wives had little to no voice. Certainly there were difficult wives then too, but they could not choose to divorce their husbands, only husbands could do that. Therefore, that scripture is written toward men. In our society where a woman can end a marriage as easily as a man, I think it important that women heed this scripture just as men should. I thoroughly believe that God is watching the behavior of wives just as He is of husbands to see if His Spirit is being heeded in our marriages. Again this truth becomes evident when you look at it in light of 1 Peter 3. There verses 1 through 6 speak of the choices God desires to see wives making that will illustrate their willingness to be obedient to Him as they take on the supporting role in the marriage. Then verse 7 admonishes men to treat their wives with gentleness and all of those choices, both the husband’s and the wife’s are to be carefully considered and in line with what God desires so that their prayers may not be hindered.

Questions to Answer:

  1. Have you ever considered the fact that God measures how important He is to you by how you treat your spouse?
  2. If you were observing your behavior toward your spouse on any given day would you see someone you would describe as a lover of God who follows His leading?
  3. What areas of your responses to your spouse need to be considered and improved for God to be comfortable that you are listening to the portion of His Spirit He has placed in your marriage?

Actions to Take:

  1. Pray and Thank God for the portion of His Spirit He has chosen to endow your marriage with.
  2. Ask Him to make you aware of any ways you may have been dealing with your spouse that don’t match up with His Spirit. Ask God’s forgiveness and empowerment as you make the necessary changes in how you interact with your spouse.
  3. Seek your spouse’s forgiveness for how you may have been dealing with them “treacherously” and let them know you intend to make changes in that behavior going forward.

So now, recognizing that if you are going to have a great day on game day, you have to make sure that the practice sessions go well and be willing to identify any areas that need improvement. Don’t shy away from those interactions that haven’t necessarily gone well in the past. Choose the correct action, the one that matches the portion of the spirit living right there in your marriage and then practice, practice and practice some more so you can go be awesome!

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